I am 35-year-old woman, educated with a master's degree. When I was a teen, I used to think that it would be exciting to have a husband and children. When I got into my 20s, and I observed my friends and how they are married and living in misery; I've changed my mind.
I was in a relationship with a man where we shared a house. We cohabited for two years doing everything together. This guy talked about having a family.
We broke up shortly after I told him I was not interested in children, and that I did not want my stomach to stretch and have baby marks.
He said I was not talking as a woman, and I needed to humble myself. He also said that a good woman wants to have children. He told me that I hated children, I told him that I did not hate children just did not want to have any.
We split and he found himself another girl and in less than a year, he got married; I sent him a wedding gift.
I have found another partner and he already has kids. I was tricked. I told him that I did not want to have children.
Now that we are together, he says that he wants children. He says he likes what's between my legs, and having children with me would bring us closer to permanent.
My question: How can children bring a couple together? Everywhere I see couples breaking up and marriages ending in divorce.
This man already has children so I thought our relationship would work, but he wants to have children, even one, with me.
I really want this man, and I want our relationship to last, but I don't want to have children. My friends say that something is wrong with me. But I can assure you that nothing is wrong with me. I am quite happy the way I am. I come home from work, I play my music, watch television, talk to my friends on the phone, and I have no one to molest me or disturb me.
What do you think?