"I was taught never to beat a woman or even get verbally abusive, so when she started pushing me around, I refused to lift my hand," Said Smith* (name change).
Smith and his girlfriend of about four years was the sweetest soul when they first met. However, he started to see the changes in her behaviour when he decided to move in with her and her family months later.
"She was very possessive and didn't even want me to speak with any of her relatives. She would constantly call to check up on me, but I honestly thought it was 'cute' jealousy," he said.
The jealousy soon turned to rage as his girlfriend began to get physical after simple arguments.
"I remember during sex she would get really violent and began slapping me across the face, but once again I was foolish to believe that she was just sexually excited. But in other instances after she verbally abused me, she began pushing, shoving, and even spitting on me. Her family thought it was funny which boosted her even more," he said.
- GAL CLOWN
Soon after, Smith said that he became the 'goofy' topic of his inner-city community and was often teased by both males and females. This, he said, caused him to sink deeper in shame.
And during times when he tried to escape the arguments, he said that she would use her car to block his vehicle, preventing him from leaving.
Smith said he finally reached his boiling point when his former spouse stabbed him in the back of his head as he slept.
"I worked in a pharmacy and my co-worker had called my phone, but the phone stopped ringing when she answered. She got in a fit and stabbed me.
I was frightened, and the reality came that I was with a mad woman because she even helped me to clean the wound after," he said.
- CALL IT QUITS
A few days later, Smith said he finally confided in a family member who encouraged him to leave the relationship.
He eventually called it quits two months later.
"I couldn't get it out of my head how she poked the knife in my skull and tell me say me a go join me mother at Dovecot," ...
Society often considers men to be the perpetrators of domestic violence, but the reality is that women can be violent too.
If at any point you see your self in a constant abusive relationship, walk free.